Affectionate. Do you like to touch? BE touched? Even non sexually? Are you totally into hugs? Do you need a reason for hugs and/or kisses? Would you comb or brush my hair for a really long time? Let me comb yours? Do you like to hold hands when walking down the street? Steal glances and kisses in the car when stopped at traffic lights?

Age. I think age isn't really all that important as long as both people are on the same emotional and intellectual level.

Alive. Do you know what I mean when I say I am fully alive? Are you?

Arguing style. I hate arguing. I would rather do anything than argue. And anything to end an argument. When I get angry, I cry and close myself into a corner. I don't get angry that much. I usually ask myself how important whatever it is I am upset at will be in a year. Or ten years. It rarely is important enough to stay upset at.

Astrology. I am Cancer Sun, Pisces Moon, and Aquarius Rising. If you need to know more, I have a chart but have no clue as to how to read it. In the past, I have totally clicked immediately with Pisces. My first lover was a Pisces. I lived with a man who was a Gemini, and was involved with another Gemini man after that. That was hard. I am a typical water sign. Feel first, think later.

Career/Job. I co-manage a child care center for infants and toddlers. I do computer web site design and desktop publishing work for people when I can get it. I am basically broke most of the time. Luckily money isn't very important to me. I would hope that you actually have a job as well. I only say it this way after living with a chronically unemployed active-alcoholic for 4 years. I also have had way too much experience with people who were married to their careers. This is totally not me, and I don't want that in someone else. I would hope that you would know when it is time to come home from work, and be able to leave work at the office most of the time.

Caring. Do you genuinely care about people? If someone has no food, do you tell them you will pray for them? Or do you buy them groceries? If they are cold, do you give them a coat?

Children. I don't have children of my own. I take care of other people's babies, so I am around kids all the time. I do want children someday. Or maybe child someday. If I couldn't carry a baby or there was some other reason why I couldn't have a biological child, I would adopt a child in a heartbeat.

Creative. I write. Words are tools for me. To take an emotion and put it on paper (or monitor, as the case may be) is my goal. To make the reader FEEL something. I also can knit. I learned from both my grandmothers. I design my own sweaters and mittens and blankets. Not much use for them in Phoenix, so I don't sell many. I mostly give things away that I make. I love color and texture. You don't have to be a writer, but I would want you to have some creativity inside you.

Crying. I cry at times. It doesn't necessarily mean I am sad. I cry when I am emotional about anything. Every time I watch "The Lion King," I cry when little Simba tries to wake up his Dad, who was just killed. Tears are an emotional release. I never, ever, want to hear again in my life, "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." Sometimes I even cry after orgasms. Especially if it is intense, emotional, spiritual. And it is more than ok if you can also feel and release too.

Cuddling. Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes. Always. All Ways.

Curious. I love learning new things. I love looking up useless information. I am pretty good at Jeopardy. I used to read dictionaries and encyclopedias before the Internet. I lose time sometimes reading interesting things online. A site has a link to another site with another link, and before I know it, 4 hours have gone by.

Dependable. If I say I will be somewhere, or do something, I will. Or I will have a really good reason why I didn't. And that doesn't happen much. I need someone I can count on to keep promises and commitments. I need to know I can rely on you.

Distance. I live in Arizona. I lived in upstate New York until 2 years ago. I would rather not go back into snow and slush, but I would go anywhere my loved one is. There is nothing I have that is so important it can't be relocated.

Emotions. I think I already covered this. Don't even bother with me if you are looking for someone who is rational and logical all the time. And if you can't feel, or won't feel, it isn't going to work.

Empathic. I am empathic. This means I feel energy and emotions from other people. Yes, sort of like Counselor Troi. If this is going to freak you out, you are forewarned. I do tend to answer questions before they are asked, and sometimes I just know things. I am learning Remote Viewing or Remote Sensing. You don't have to be empathic, but if I can't feel you, I can't bond with you. If you are empathic, please don't shield from me.

Fantasy. Fantasy is important to me. All kinds of fantasy. I love playing. Imagining. But I do know the difference in fantasy and reality, and I would want you to know this as well.

Flowers. My favorites are white daisies and lilies of the valley. Or any kind of wildflower. Roses are romantic, but sort of a little too refined and grand for anything but very special occasions, don't you think?

Height. Ok I am short. Barely 5 foot 2. With shoes. So I don't ever have to duck when coming into a doorway or walking under a tree. I have no preferences as far as somebody's height, except if you are male, I would prefer if you were taller than me.

Homebody. I am a typical Cancer homebody. I don't go out much. Not that I don't like to, but I am just comfortable at home.

Honest. Above all other things, honesty is so important.

Hugs. Just about the best thing in the world. Required several times a day for best health and happiness.

Intelligent. I am not looking for Einstein, but I am looking for someone I can really talk about things with. I would rather not have to explain everything I say. I want someone I can have serious meaning of life discussions with, someone I can learn from, someone who will also play silly games with me.

Meeting. I will not meet you the first time we talk. Nor the second. You do not want somebody who would meet you that quickly. Think about it - who else has she met that quickly? Safety is important to me. Trust. Knowing somebody a little bit.

Monogamy. Absolutely necessary. No exceptions.

Music. I like music. I played classical violin and sang for years. I like classical, oldies, seventies, eighties, a little of everything really, except rap and that techno dance stuff. Some of my favorite musicians/groups: Enigma, kd lang, the Beatles, the Moody Blues, there are more but I can't think of them.

Non smoking. Non drinking. Non drug using. Important. Very. I have no opinion if a person chooses to drink. I do, however, have the request that a person not drink around me. I also choose to not have alcohol in my home. If you are an occasional drinker, that is fine as long as you don't drink around me, and you are not drunk around me. I do have asthma, so smoking is something I really can't have around me either. Besides, kissing a non smoker is so much nicer!

Pets. I have a cat. I will probably always have a cat and/or a dog. I used to have a hamster named Tribble when I was in high school.

Playful. Do you like to laugh and be silly? Would you be embarrassed if I took out a coloring book and crayons in front of you? When was the last time you played on a see-saw? Will you play along with my silly word games?

Reading. I love to read. You will see me reading over my bacon and eggs in the morning. You will see me reading as I am laying in bed getting ready for sleep. I read on the bus, I read waiting for the bus, I read everything, all the time. Remember that old episode of "The Twilight Zone?" Where the man who loved his books more than anything else worked in a bank. He was in the vault when there was some kind of nuclear disaster or something like that. Everyone was dead. Except him. Now he had all the time in the world. Nothing to do BUT read. He was so happy. And then his glasses broke. I CRIED the first time I saw that.

Recovery. I am in recovery. My recovery birthday is January 31, 1997, which makes it over 4 years. I used prescription pills and alcohol. From the time I was 14. There is a page on my writings link that tells my story. I will not become involved with someone who is actively using. I will also not become involved with someone who is newly sober because they have way too many things to deal with besides me.

References. Okay, I know this sounds silly and paranoid. But I would at some point like to meet somebody who already knows you.

Romantic. Will you remember my birthday? Valentine's Day? The anniversary of the first time we made love? Will you think it silly that I do remember?

Sensual. Do you fully experience all there is to experience? Or do you hear without listening? Have you ever really looked at a daisy and seen all the magic of the universe? Have you petted a cat and felt connected to the world? Listened to a piece of music and been totally absorbed in the beauty of it?

Sex. I need to find someone who actually LIKES sex, and likes it a lot. Creativity is a plus. Creativity and gentleness is an extra plus. Creativity, gentleness, and the knowledge of when not to be gentle are HEAVEN.

Spiritual. I am very spiritual. Not religious. I belong to a Unitarian-Universalist church. The book "Conversations With God" changed everything for me. I believe in Unity and ONEness.

Talking. I talk plenty once I get to know someone. You have been warned.

Unique. How do you catch a unique rabbit? (You 'Neek up on him.) How do you catch a tame rabbit? (Tame way.) Still interested?

Weight. I have just lost 60 pounds, and have about 40 more to go. I started at a size 28 or 4 XL. I am now down to a regular size large in pants and a regular extra large in tops because I still have boobs. I am not saying what I actually weigh. I will say it is totally cool when you can sit at a table at a fast food restaurant and you tummy doesn't touch the table. And when you sit on the bus and realize you are only taking up one seat. I don't care about weight on another person. But if you are unhappy, I would encourage you to change it. Well, that goes for anything, not just weight.

Ok, that is it for right now. As I think of things, I will add them. Still want to talk to me?